Showing posts with label online dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label online dating. Show all posts

Sunday, January 4, 2015

My First Dip Into Online Dating...

The Not So Great Singer & The Liar

 

 
Living in Miami and dating is a job on its own. I am sure with all the
stories my friends and I have, we can have our own radio show. No lie.
From smelling my hair to singing NSYNC and Britney Spears to me was one
of the very first dates I had from a guy on POF (PlentyOfFish.com). "Don't go yet! Let
me finish the song!" He said. I stood there wondering where the cameras were
assuming this must have been a joke. Nope. He was serious. Ha!
How much weirder could the night have gotten? Obviously I did not continue
talking to that one. NEXT !
An experience that left a minor scar was one to involve one of my
good friends. From the very beginning of getting to know these guys online
we obviously ask a lot of questions. One of the many questions after getting to know
them a little better and finally meeting is "How many people are you currently
talking to?" I only ask this question when I am interested of course.
Honesty is key people! He told me I was the only one he was talking to while I was
truthful and told him I was talking to 2 other guys at the time. After dating for about a month
or so I put up a picture on Facebook and my friend called me right away. "Steph!
are you with this guy right now?!" she asked. I said "Yes, what's going on?". She went
on to tell me she was dating the same guy. "Leave and call me back ASAP!" she told me.
The truth always comes out sooner or later. Obviously the fact that we were friends was the
honest mistake but the fact that he lied to us both was the issue at hand. When I mentioned
her name to him his face turned white and he didn't say a word. I walked out and he
didn't go after me. The calls began after my friend left him a voice message to forget about
us both. Thankfully I had a flight to catch the next day so I would have a nice distraction visiting
my cousin in Boston. When I got back he asked to see me and of course my nice
side allowed him to explain himself. He asked for my forgiveness and asked me for another
chance. The jerk tells me that I am the safest choice between me and my friend. I looked at him and laughed. Now is when he decides to be blunt?! I don't want to be anyone's safe choice! Seriously?! No one wants to be that person. I'll finish this post stating that I have always been a strong believer in "Everything happens for a reason" and there is always these little moments that I realize someone is definitely looking out for me because it could've been much more serious. 
 
 
 
 
Question:
 
-How honest are you when it comes to dating/getting to know someone?
 
I will continue to share dating stories next week!

 



Sunday, December 21, 2014

Introduction To A Taboo Life

Disclaimer: This blog is not to offend any mothers and/or married people. This is simply my view on things & possible guidance to my decision.
I'll be writing about parenthood, dating in this crazy generation and love.



I have been on & off dating sites for 2 years now. A few of my friends and cousins recommended them & well, after a while it seemed everyone was on them. I went from POF (Plenty of Fish) to OkCupid to Tinder & boy was that a roller coaster. Even though I had come across some bad apples, I cannot deny that I didn't learn a lot about myself; What I like & don't like in a man. After being in a relationship for almost 8 years you can imagine I had no idea how to navigate this new chapter in my life. I felt lost. An idea was planted after all the disaster expierences I had. This idea. Since I could remember I've always been the stubborn girl who made the decision long ago that I didn't think marriage was necessary & that having kids of my own one day was out of the question. I am 26 years old & plenty of people think I am wrong for making that decision. The older I get, the more annoying the questions get & I am pretty sure I am not the only one who feels this way. So my idea is to get the opinions of other women, maybe even men. Those independent women who made the decision to not be a mother & are older now. The women that are terrified of being a mother. The women that once thought like me & are mothers now. The list goes on. I want to hear what you think. I know men get this pressure as well so let's hear it all!



Questions:
-Do you feel pressured to have children in the future?

-What made you come to the conclusion of having or not having kids of your own?

-Older crowd! Do you regret having children or not having them? Are you happy?